For me, it was always the week’s highlight when a new episode of Gossip.Girl was up. It felt like a short trip into a different world full of fashionable coats, eccentric parties in luxurious apartments on the upper east side. When someone asked which character was my favorite- the answer was clear: Blair Waldorf!

She is not only beautiful and smart but also has a heart made of gold when it comes to friends, even if she is the queen of intrigue. Being like Blair was one of my childhood dreams and even today, I think we can all learn a lot from this young and independent woman. Here are five things we can learn from Blair Waldorf:

”Destiny is for losers. It’s just a stupid excuse to wait for things to happen instead of making them happen.”

So true- if you want something, do not search for excuses why it will not work or why you can’t get it now. Just work off your ass and get what you want! Blair Waldorf is a true business lady and who wouldn’t like to be as single-minded as she is?

“Have a little faith, and if that doesn’t work, have a lot of mimosas.”

Sometimes things are out of your hands, you just have to trust that everything will work out and can’t do anything about it. Then it does not help to stress out and have a million of worries, just lean back, trust in yourself and even if it does not come the way you think, don’t worry, the universe has a plan for you and you will make your own way. And a little drink never killed nobody.

“If you really want something you don’t stop for anyone or anything until you get it.”

This relates to the first quote, but also fits for relationships. Do not leave your way for someone else, do not give up your dreams just to be with someone and hope that this will make you happy. ( Even if he is as handsome as Blair’s first boyfriend Nate Archibald!)You first need to be happy with yourself, to make someone else happy.

“All this time I’ve blamed you. For pulling me into the dark. But I was wrong. It was me who brought out your dark side.”

This is so important to learn- sometimes it is just your fault that you are not happy. I think this is the reason for many malfunctioning relationships. It is easy to blame someone else for your discontent, but to reflect on yourself and your own behavior is often much harder but you can learn so much about your personality. So be a grown up and stand by your flaws.

“I have an idea for you: quit. Your boss is a bitch. Let’s go to lunch.”

If you do not enjoy what you do- stop doing it! People spend so much time at work, if this is toxic to your content than please please please look around for another job! Your life is too short to spend it on things that do not make you happy.

Do you want some more girl boss inspiration? Find it here: How to be a self confident woman – Be like Donna Paulsen